What really matters

Many a times,.. many many a times this happens to us..."I know this is what is rite and this what will earn me the genuine tag,.."... "But if I do the other thing then it might have some chances of delivering a different impression. Oooor, "I know that I am absolutely right and the others are mistaken, so i shall argue and try to convince them and prove my point.." Think about this now, how many times does the first instinct in our mind delivers the right direction,... the decision that we dont regret later.

Me no ultimatum, thou bound to err. Err alwys!!! Hasty decisions, quick and overconfident moves, outbound extrovert nature (If 3 Indians are in a meeting - 1 would be the iniator, 1 would be the idea generator, the last would be the counter idea generator - moral: there is no listener). Given a scenario, we would always like to contribute and speak up - but have we ever thought of this - observation in a conversation is the key to any strategy. We all, with no exceptions are a million times tougher in words and emotions - unparalleled and horsepowered in the global economics., We are spotted as the future visionary, and not China. Why do you think so, they have much cheaper and more skilled labour... They are a ton times advanced in technology. Anyday they make better diapers and hifi toys, they would even outlast us in war....

The one power that we hold is our ability to sell ourselves better,. We wait, we watch and then we adopt. Rather than just following the masked protocol of listen-follow, listen-follow... But but, why arent we USA then.. Good question, that is where I think the key point we all lack comes into picture. We were made into what we are today, but we have become too complacent that we fail to listen.. That is the key to victory. Silence is golden, but it shouldnt last an eternity - else you would be swallowed alive. Take the lead only when it is required - if you see any big giant organization - you would realize that only less than 20% are managers by post. BUT, the true scene is > 70% are Managers by ROLE!!! You see that...!

All of this because we tend to want to become masters of others more than masters of ourselves. If we pay more attention towards what really matters, it is not your opinion, it is not your ability to judge or your knowledge of the subject. It is all about how much you can listen to others - even if they are wrong. You try this - be more receptive to what your pal has to say and dont immediately say "No, i think this shud be....." - SCREW THIS I THINK phrase. For once, try not taking your first opinion or super intelligent decision into concern. Put that to a pause, take the back seat and learn to be Gandhi's 3rd monkey - the voiceless.

Then you will realize that you learn more and have more people who will value you.