Thursday, November 5, 2009

First marriage in my friends circle

Wow the most awaited weekend was showing itself up, but for the tons of office work to be done before leaving it was a brilliant beginning. Must say so much of work also gave it a good start :) I was planning to leave office by 9.30 to take my bus at 11! Yes that is how careful bangaloreans must be. And I was pushed to work till 9.27 as I wont be having any form of internet access over the weekend.

Kudos to irctc tatkal I had to book a sitting bus in last minute, which I thought would be a great spoiler, but I was blessed with a sound sleep that night to my own astonishment, yes I really slept in a sitting bus! First time ever in my life I suppose, thanks to Citrix for the heavy work :)

I was taking a bus to Madurai, which was 2 hours away from Dindukkal, I was off to the place which a partial reason for my name - My father was working in Madurai when I was born. I was born on Meena rasi too, so they decided to give me this name :) My cousin brother has currently positioned his tent in Madurai. We both expected me to reach the place by 9.30 or so, and to our shock and surprise I reached by 6.30 -> GOK how the KPN driver managed, thank God I slept off!

He had two kids[girls], was looking forward to have a great time with them as they already knew me very well as my brother stayed for nearly three years just next street to us. But alas they were sleeping when I went. Had dosa for a good change I was not the maker :P [I have started cooking and must say that it is not very tough :)] then those sweet buddies got up. It was really awesome to hear them call me "Athai", I have ever and will ever long for not having an athai :( Athai is father's sister. My father's side family is much restricted to my father and his own brother and my grandmother's own brother family. My grandfather used to say that his brother's and all were bad people so they used to stay away from them, whatever it was I dint have an athai to hear "அத்தை மடி மெத்தையடி ஆடி விளையாடம்மா" :(

Then I had a sound sleep :) then a heavy lunch. Then playing with those kids again :) Around 3.30 finally I decided to start and my brother dropped me at bust stand and I took a Govt bus, with seat near the door, wow I was very lucky.

The travel was unforgettable. "மண்வாசனை" was ever lingering with fresh rains having played with it and more joyfully willing to come. The path was so serene that I was feeling totally peaceful, no laptop, no shecheduled tasks, no coding, no accomplishment of targets. This was really beauty. Either side were hills and few more taller ones allowing them to be called small mountains. There were so many of them. The series went on and the final hill or mountain seem to be the sky itself. The blissful blue colour that they took gradually was a perfect match to the sky blue.

The mail glory creator was adding on to the ecstasy, the Sun, it luminously decorated the clouds. There was a stong beauty competiton between the sky, the sun, the hills/mountains and the clouds and finally putting myself as judge "together it was heaven :)".

Such a journey at this hectic period of life was an ice breaker. Surely it was a must and it proved to be much more worthful :)

At last I reached the place and was off to madapam, it really felt good to witness first marriage among our friends circle. There was Yaazh showing all sings of a girl ready for reception, she looked strikingly beautiful. And slowly everyone came and we had a great time together enjoying every moment of the ocassion, with so much of care given to us by Yaazh's parents. And the next day came with the marriage ceremony getting over -> there blossomed Mrs.Yaazhisai Parthiban, it is indeed a very significant day for her, the next afterwhich her entire lifestyle would change.

Then back to Madurai, enjoyment with my brother kids :)

Altogether the trip was simply awesome.

PS: You might have wondered why the whole post was full of text with no photos. This was a blow, last time when I went home I forgot to get back my camera :( But must say these images shall never leave my mind. Everything will ever stay captured there :)

15 comments:

  1. @meena...
    U were quite right.. v had a wonderful time. But i still wonder how can a gal change her mind set 2 leave her parents all so soon, n live a life wid a guy whom she has neva known in her entire life. I am still wondering...

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  2. I guess u have to keep wondering prathy.. I dont think u wld come across such a situation for urself :D

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  3. Nice post meenakshi.. looks like u ve got urself a good break.. and its also gud that u got some time to pen that down here.

    Another marriage tat happened just a fortnight back was Tommy's and that too went on well from wat i cud see on 8x4's

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  4. A very simple personal note here by meenakshi.. that doesnt need so much effort of squeezing the brains or tweaking the creative mind!!

    See thts why i say, take some load off to write such day to day experiences which ppl will find interesting and at the same time not so complicated to discuss about..

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  5. I dont think she changes alltogether in overnight.. she was actually forced to do tat by our society.. The custom of sending women with her man after marriage was there in india over a longtime.. The main reason for that s.. In olden days.. no women was allowed to work at tat time and permitted only to take care of their homes.. Guys went for work.. since man was the bread earner in a family.. parents allowed t bride to go with t groom after t marriage.. Also, Imagine how long can she rely on her parents durin those days, when each couple will have dozens of children ? so, it was made a custom for parents to find a perfect groom to take care of their daughter and send her with him, in t name of marriage.. Though we had striking changes nowadays, ppl are nt changing their mind.. since our ppl follows this tradition for ages.. They made it as a rule without knowing the reason behind tat..

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  6. @hari
    Its an old tradition, but to say the ego and mentality of guys won allow dem to even think of gals takin a higher position dan dem. The time won change this.

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  7. @prathi:
    U cannot generalize on tis thing.. if guys were nt lenient.. all t offices ll b free of women.. things have changed well drastically over t past decade.. I do accept tat our society have many male chauvinists... but the no. has considerably reduced these days.. And i m well sure that in near future all the egos will fade away.. and who knows even women can dominate over men.. :)

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  8. @hari
    The last line s nice to hear... :)

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  10. @prathi:
    en indha kola veri? Are u directly affected by such kinda of persons? I still remember t rebukes u gave me for tis same topic ;)

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  11. Hey guys as ever the post and the comments are going in a different direction :)

    After marriage somehow either of them will have to leave their family unless they decided to live together, so this cant be helped.

    And parents mentality will be a lot different during this age, all that they want is to find a good guy for their girl and not just to have their girl with themselves ever.

    But I too agree it was little too early. But when compared to the first marriage that had happened this is far better :P

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  12. @Senthil: yes it was really a very very good break for me :) And must say our blog gives me a lot of relaxation most of the times when I feel so irritated to continue work for the next moment.

    And surely I wont miss to share such a wonderful experience with my frends...

    After all life is for living and if not always like this once in a year such a trip is a MUST for everybody.

    Try taking a break people like this... dont miss the chance... And please dont drop such plans telling you dont have time...

    If you cannot spare time now, you will never spare time...

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  13. @hari
    u can ask any gal in d society. at 1 point or d other dey wud hav been. Take our class for example, has any of d decisions taken askin gals?
    dey think gals as some puppets with which dey can play around.

    @meena
    If all topics n comments go in a monotonous way, it won b interesting na...

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  14. Prathy, I think u re completely blinded by cliches. U wud ve to first start thinking within the box before you even jump out of it and do so...

    Rite now u re thinking from within a BARRELL, where u always believe what u hear without even getting an opportunity to see and believe what is true and what is not..

    Dont ever quote our class, as it was just a puppet by itself. Neither the guys were kings nor the gals were queens.

    Take real life examples.. ur case for that matter of fact. If u were born 3 generations back u wud ve been in the kitchen sector of the house and serving guests at home which was the typical life of an indian woman a couple of generations back

    Think prathy before you argue back

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  15. What Hari quoted is absolutely right. I am pretty sure the curses of India have fast withered with time and a woman's values & interests are being given 10 times the importance of what it was 10 years back and infact they are handled very very obligingly when it comes to marriage....

    This is beyond arguement, it is the blunt truth.

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